Hey you, no, I really wasn't thinking you were digging at me at all... I have liked our posts here.
There was no defensiveness in anyway (I certainly didn't mean to sound defensive and that's why I put the smiley in too). This is why I have issues with internet chit-chat, irl you would've seen I wasn't being defensive or thought you were having a dig; I literally was asking/wondering what your point was (re the 90% thing). My thoughts of that claim were sceptical...well, I don't doubt that some psychologist found that 65% of some women, somewhere in the industry were abused, but what areas of the industry and where, what workers? As I said; I worked in the industry for years and don't recall meeting many at all. I know more women who've been abused who aren't in the industry - so I just don't
get the statistics. I'd assume the 90% were prostitutes, not strippers or pornstars. Most of the strippers I met were very confident, ballsy, gutsy, in control. Pornstars too, mostly, they were in charge of their ''business'', their bodies, their own boss. Where as prostitutes *generally* are not...perhaps?
Sorry to hear about your past Soj, brave of you to say that on here. Mucho respect.
Went to the anti-pope march a couple of years ago and that was a gruelling day/protest, met so many brave people.
As for the English language, I love it too. A bit of word smithery turns me on. I grew up listening to John Cooper Clarke, he was my hero. Inspired my pen to move in different ways, but most people don't know what I bang on about half the time (especially after not much sleep). I detest Grammar Nazi's though; people who go 'round pointing out ''you're'' and ''your'', fair enough if it's a thread about grammar/language etc. In the case of my post though, ''unconducive'' is a word, perhaps I didn't use it in the correct way during my insomniatical daze? I said that I found too many aspects of feminism hindering, even:
http://thesaurus.com/browse/unconducive, meaning damaging, etc?
Let's not discuss the feminism bit now, eh...
I disagree. The pornstar just has to be a good business person - strong willed/minded. If they are naive/easily manipulated/stupid they will get underpaid/exploited - which can happen in any business though, right? And one of the reasons I thought the porn industry was so fabulous (apart from the fact you got paid to orgasm) was because it was one of the very few professions in which women got paid more than the men.
Look, I know all about the nasty side of the industry, but being wise, clued up, pretty tough too, I was never exploited; I chose what/where/when I wanted to shoot and who to ''do it'' with. I didn't do anything I didn't want, and got paid double than any man I worked with (though once I got paid more than a trans* woman, which wasn't right... but queer porn is a whole other kettle of sharks). I was happy with what I was paid. I didn't do many shoots. I ''got out'' and worked behind the camera, then in other parts of the industry, including being a sex surrogate for people with disabilities.
I love the sex industry. The good parts. It can be great for some people to work in. Awful for others. You have to work it, not let it work you. Such a cliche, eh, but true.