And this is why I would be interested to see as neutral a run down as possible of everything that was shared, just description no opinion.
It is undoubtably as complex as it is horrible. I’ve found it impossible to get an idea of context from the bits I’ve read, and tbf it’s probably not even possible with a full trial transcript in front of you. Truths are often subjective in some way and two retellings of the same event can sound like two completely different events. Observers read their own truths into what’s reported which distorts things even further. Ultimately there will have been power dynamics at play which will influence how meaningful each specific action was, and none of us will ever really know about those.
But yeah, everything I’ve come across suggested there was mutual abuse even if the precise power dynamics have been harder to pinpoint. I’m still clueless as to how the sharing of mutual abuse has led to the “poor him, evil her” stance - apart from the enduring, background static of misogyny of course.