I don't think that's particularly coherent. So how do I vote, when I think brexit is a stupid idea and whatever deal there is I will object to parts of it while I can see that 'no deal' would probably be even worse?
See how polarising this shit is, how destructive it is? You'd actively campaign for leave in a second ref in my scenario. I'd be tempted to campaign for 'no deal' in yours. If the 'deal' involved new border controls, I probably would do so. I'm not voting for that. There certainly wouldn't be anything on the ballot paper that I would think is remotely the right thing to do. My answer, as is so often the case in votes, would be 'neither of the above, thankyou', so I would effectively be disenfranchised.
I don’t see any incoherence in my position. You are, by your own admission, conflating process and outcome. This is something that Remainers are doing all over the shop. Because they want to Remain in the EU they are willing to overlook process.
I don’t see myself as a Remainer or a Leaver. For me, the whole referendum campaign was a surreal experience. I felt entirely disconnected from two positions, neither of which I cared for. This idea that there are two polar camps that every belongs to one of other of is wrong in my experience. I’m not. My partner is not. Many of my friends are not. We’re in the “oh, shut up and get on with it” camp. The “oh, is this still going on?” camp.
But look at this dispassionately. If you ask someone to take a decision, then you abide by their decision even if you think it the wrong one. To do otherwise is to admit that all they were doing was exercising the illusion of determination.
It is that admission that many people will react against. That I will react against. I’m like that. If people push me to give the answer they want, re-asking, re-asking, I’ll give them the other answer. Even if my initial answer is “I’m not bothered”. (I was going to give you real life examples of when I’ve done this, but I’ll keep it brief).
The choice to leave the EU has been taken. The choice now facing us is the manner of that leaving. We either leave that to the government, or we let them take it so far and then return to us to say “OK, we have negotiated a deal. Do you approve it or not?” In effect, the deal or no deal. If such a referendum were to take place, I probably wouldn’t vote. (Although I’d need to see the deal before deciding).
You may think it’s a choice between two bad scenarios. If you are unable to determine which is the better of two bad options, then you are in the position I am in at almost every general election. Is there a tactical reason I should vote a particular way? If not, then I abstain.
No matter how much I’d like it, the option of “full communism now” is not on the ballot paper. The option for you of “Remain, actually” is not on the ballot paper. Sorry, but it isn’t. I know it doesn’t stop you supporting it, but there you go. Life’s tough.