Looby
Well-Known Member
I didn’t want to clog up the lovely dog thread so started another.
I’m feeling really torn over our lovely Lucy who is 11 1/2 and whether we’ll know and agree on the right time to have her put to sleep.
She has an osteosarcoma and we’re not treating it she just has pain relief.
Currently:
She’s not exhibiting any signs of worsening pain.
She’s eating well and not really vomiting.
She seems ok in herself, still wanting lots of cuddles and affection.
She sleeps a lot but she’s pretty lazy anyway.
But:
She’s on the max medication she can be given so the vets said now it’s simply a quality of life assessment. She has gabapentin, metacam, amitriptyline and paracetamol. Her leg is very swollen.
She can’t walk on the bad leg at all now. So I think she gets tired getting used to being three legged.
She does ok but struggles downstairs sometimes because of our slippery laminate.
She isn’t going out for walks at all.
She’s now struggling to get up the stairs. Last night and this morning she’s got stuck halfway up and panicked. She just woke me crying.
I can’t lift her so had to help her bunny hop up the rest. She also can’t get on our bed now without being lifted.
I feel like we’re getting close now but I think my husband disagrees. He understandably doesn’t want to let her go when she’s ok in herself and eating etc and he feels like she still has good quality of life because she’s quite happy to be chilled and is a couch potato anyway.
I hate watching her struggle even a little bit. Her not being able to get up the stairs when she needs to or get on our bed will really upset her.
I guess my worry is, because I’m not dealing with her illness very well, I’d be making a decision based on it being emotionally easier for me. Maybe she is ok with a bit of help getting up and down and I’m being selfish because it feels like torture watching her every move and symptom and waiting for her to die. I can’t stop crying, I just feel so sad about it.
All the guides and lists etc on quality of life aren’t really helping as there’s some really good bits and some not so good.
I know the view is better too early than too late and we’re both agreed on this.
I’m not asking you all to decide whether to put my dog down btw, that would be mean.
Any advice would be appreciated though.
I’m feeling really torn over our lovely Lucy who is 11 1/2 and whether we’ll know and agree on the right time to have her put to sleep.
She has an osteosarcoma and we’re not treating it she just has pain relief.
Currently:
She’s not exhibiting any signs of worsening pain.
She’s eating well and not really vomiting.
She seems ok in herself, still wanting lots of cuddles and affection.
She sleeps a lot but she’s pretty lazy anyway.
But:
She’s on the max medication she can be given so the vets said now it’s simply a quality of life assessment. She has gabapentin, metacam, amitriptyline and paracetamol. Her leg is very swollen.
She can’t walk on the bad leg at all now. So I think she gets tired getting used to being three legged.
She does ok but struggles downstairs sometimes because of our slippery laminate.
She isn’t going out for walks at all.
She’s now struggling to get up the stairs. Last night and this morning she’s got stuck halfway up and panicked. She just woke me crying.
I can’t lift her so had to help her bunny hop up the rest. She also can’t get on our bed now without being lifted.
I feel like we’re getting close now but I think my husband disagrees. He understandably doesn’t want to let her go when she’s ok in herself and eating etc and he feels like she still has good quality of life because she’s quite happy to be chilled and is a couch potato anyway.
I hate watching her struggle even a little bit. Her not being able to get up the stairs when she needs to or get on our bed will really upset her.
I guess my worry is, because I’m not dealing with her illness very well, I’d be making a decision based on it being emotionally easier for me. Maybe she is ok with a bit of help getting up and down and I’m being selfish because it feels like torture watching her every move and symptom and waiting for her to die. I can’t stop crying, I just feel so sad about it.
All the guides and lists etc on quality of life aren’t really helping as there’s some really good bits and some not so good.
I know the view is better too early than too late and we’re both agreed on this.
I’m not asking you all to decide whether to put my dog down btw, that would be mean.
Any advice would be appreciated though.