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One of my paternal great-grandmothers was a skivvie at a boarding school, and was raped by a pupil. For her pains she was sacked, nicked and had her virtue questioned.
One of my paternal great-grandmothers was a skivvie at a boarding school, and was raped by a pupil. For her pains she was sacked, nicked and had her virtue questioned.
One of my paternal great-grandmothers was a skivvie at a boarding school, and was raped by a pupil. For her pains she was sacked, nicked and had her virtue questioned.
We were kind, considering the eviscerations I've read in this forum. Nobody called him a dick. Nobody said he was a cock. Everybody was very patient and levelheaded.Ahh, let's be kind. He's only 22 and I can remember thinking that I was really, really right the entire time when I was that age. He's probably gone to drink lager and snap the tips off Gauloises in intense discussion
I was being very, very kind but yes, fair point. He's been on urban for six years?!?1? Fuck him. Throw him to the wolvesWe were kind, considering the eviscerations I've read in this forum. Nobody called him a dick. Nobody said he was a cock. Everybody was very patience and levelheaded.
He was the one that couldn't take people just asking him to back up his assertions/sweeping statements with facts and got a bit sulky/defensive.
He's been on urban for 6 years.
I think it adds to the trauma.
Ahh, let's be kind. He's only 22 and I can remember thinking that I was really, really right the entire time when I was that age. He's probably gone to drink lager and snap the tips off Gauloises in intense discussion
It's a rationalisation used by some jury members - the victim wasn't upset enough, distraught enough, then she couldn't have been raped.That seems to be the conclusion being drawn in academe, from what I've read. Unfortunately neither the medical nor the police environment are conducive to eliminating trauma, just minimising it at best, making things a whole lot more horrible at worst.
None of it is helped, of course by the institutional settings and the institutionalisation of the staff. They learn a way to deal with victims/patients, and it's difficult to change focus away from that, especially as both medical staff and police have "canteen cultures" that reinforce certain ways of acting, behaviours that, when a victim is exposed to them can be extremely denigratory of their experience as well as traumatising.
What's worse, of course, is the possibility that reporting, the process of recall of the event, can actually encourage dissociative behaviour patterns, dissociation being something that perplexes judges and juries alike, who expect weeping and wailing.
I used to smoke Gauloises. But I was a denizen of the Francophone world at the time. They taste like the inside of my grandad's shoe
It's a rationalisation used by some jury members - the victim wasn't upset enough, distraught enough, then she couldn't have been raped.
Never mind that to even sit in the same room as the rapist probably triggers that dissicuation just to get through the experience. Dissociation is the mind's way of protecting us from trauma until it can be processed, so in situations which the mind perceives as the samne as the original trauma, it's only natural that dissociation will happen again.
Cheers VP, will read that.There's an interesting paper that investigates part of the issue (Hardy, A. Young, K and Holmes, E.A. 'Does trauma memory play a role in the experience of reporting sexual assault during police interviews? An exploratory study'. Memory. 2009. 17 (8). 783-788).
People might sneer but there was actually a good Doctor Who two parter that explored this type of shit.
McCoy doesn't countI never sneer where Doctor Who is concerned, except maybe a teensy bit about Sylvester McCoy.
Who doesn't?I never sneer where Doctor Who is concerned, except maybe a teensy bit about Sylvester McCoy.
I used to smoke Gauloises. But I was a denizen of the Francophone world at the time. They taste like the inside of my grandad's shoe
Slightly off topic but that's one of the reasons that Kate McCann and Lindy Chamberlain were so vilified by the press because they were totally disassociating.It's a rationalisation used by some jury members - the victim wasn't upset enough, distraught enough, then she couldn't have been raped.
Never mind that to even sit in the same room as the rapist probably triggers that dissicuation just to get through the experience. Dissociation is the mind's way of protecting us from trauma until it can be processed, so in situations which the mind perceives as the samne as the original trauma, it's only natural that dissociation will happen again.
Slightly off topic but that's one of the reasons that Kate McCann and Lindy Chamberlain were so vilified by the press because they were totally disassociating.
Are there any cases of men being wrongfully convicted/having their cases thrown out because of not showing enough emotion?
Slightly off topic but that's one of the reasons that Kate McCann and Lindy Chamberlain were so vilified by the press because they were totally disassociating.
Are there any cases of men being wrongfully convicted/having their cases thrown out because of not showing enough emotion?
It's a rationalisation used by some jury members - the victim wasn't upset enough, distraught enough, then she couldn't have been raped.
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Which is one of the problems with rape cases as the best time to gather the evidence is straight after but this of course is a terrible time for the victim. One, very unpleasant, question i was left with that maybe someone can answer. I assume that not all rapes leave behind physical evidence of the penetration being forced would I be right?
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What do you mean?thankyou oh merciful urban overlords, may you in future ignore what others say with just as much magnanimity
Which is what I assumed, thanks.A tough question, but in essence I believe it is correct - not all rape leaves behind unequivocal physical evidence of being raped. That is not to say the rape has not occurred. Sometimes the physical evidence may be inconclusive.
After a number of attacks by dingoes on children recently, the viewpoint that dingos aren't the cute innocent animals they're thought to be is being changed. Better late than never, it's 30 years since the Lindy Chamberlain case.Slightly off topic but that's one of the reasons that Kate McCann and Lindy Chamberlain were so vilified by the press because they were totally disassociating.
Are there any cases of men being wrongfully convicted/having their cases thrown out because of not showing enough emotion?
It's a rationalisation used by some jury members - the victim wasn't upset enough, distraught enough, then she couldn't have been raped.
Never mind that to even sit in the same room as the rapist probably triggers that dissicuation just to get through the experience. Dissociation is the mind's way of protecting us from trauma until it can be processed, so in situations which the mind perceives as the samne as the original trauma, it's only natural that dissociation will happen again.
thankyou oh merciful urban overlords, may you in future ignore what others say with just as much magnanimity