gorski
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Jonti said:1) I've found your style abrasive and condescending from the get-go, tbh. That may not be your intent, I can accept that.
2) And nor am I going to trawl through old posts to *prove* you became intemperate with me sooner, and I with you later; or vice versa.
3( It's not about winning, it's about communicating. Please understand then, that I will not, in future, respond to posts of the rolly-eyed sarcasm kind
1) It may well appear that way to some. I can live with that.
2) You should. You might meet yourself. That may be a good moment, even though an uncomfortable one, for the way you see yourself. I feel like you're evading the issues here, yet again. Very slippery. You attacked me first. Openly and nastily. Unwaranted. And I know you know that.
3) To me it was bleeding obvious: I praised you at every turn, thanked you and then... You MUST know you attacked me personally first. Hence, I think it is justified to state it like that. You just can not show me I said anything of the "f-off sort" and whatnot to you. I didn't feel like that about you and I didn't behave like that towards you! I respect people who help me out of their own free will and in their own spare time. I try to reciprocate as much as humanly possible.
As for your interpretations of my "tone" and so forth... Oh, well, you should see how immature techies [and there are many who have no social skills, no understanding of the other, having been with PCs and Playstations for most of their lives] "normally" sound when you come to "their territory"... That really IS a nightmare of monstrous proportions... way too frequently to be by pure chance... Don't misunderstand me: there are many I consider great guys, not at all immature but the quantity of posturing in that world is just unbelievable. Just read the .nfo's to start with and then some other hackers/crackers forums etc. That is a minefield...
I will give you one thing: I have a problem with not speaking my mind openly and honestly, yes. I say what I think and think what I say. I try to be transparent, so people around me know they don't need to play the typical power game shit with/around me. I don't attack unless I really openly attack. I don't "like" unless I really do like and show it in no uncertain terms...
In England that is a curse. Most people here [in my and just about any other foreigner's mind, whomever I met and talked to openly, plus many an honest Englishmen] never or very rarely do that and hence they keep "interpreting" each other's "carefully chosen words" to perversion, reading loadsa of their own issues and content into other's actions/words. I'm sick of that, quite honestly! My English friends and acquaintances keep telling me they have a serious problem "reading each other", too because everything seems so bloody convaluted and in ten layers of wrapping and so forth...
The "manners" issue here is mostly the power game problem. Not about "being kind" or not - but much worse than that... IMO.