Even if it ever truly existed totalitarianism is impossible now given the opportunities for people to communicate outside imposed boundaries. We're led to believe that China, for instance, has been pulled back towards totalitarianism, but we frequently see cases of mass rebellion, as in the recent anti-Covid lockdown protests. Iran? Again regularly occurring rebellion. These displays of opposition might get put down or neutralised, but so do those which happen in western democracies, usually in a more subtle way. And when it comes down to it, both officially-designated democracies and non-democracies have a common enemy...
And whether happening in a formal democracy or otherwise, quite often the opposition is, in these days of the meltdown of all that we once took for granted, societally and ideologically, worse than that which it is rebelling against, as we saw here in our own anti-lockdown protests. I fear this is the pattern of the future.