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Fucking hell.My employer pinged my underwear when I bent over to pick his child up. I was mortified.
Fucking hell.My employer pinged my underwear when I bent over to pick his child up. I was mortified.
I'm glad I never had to apply for a job as a cheesemonger because bowler hats are not for me.I was expecting a Chippendales story.
Are you neurodivergent by any chance?I've found it hard to plan a career too. It's made me feel really shit about myself, because I am very able.
I've just left my NHS job but now have to market myself as a private practitioner. Basically saying I'm an expert. Which makes me cringe.
I'm glad I never had to apply for a job as a cheesemonger because bowler hats are not for me.
(and cos I'd get high on my own supply)
Can confirm that that's how it works.I'm glad I never had to apply for a job as a cheesemonger because bowler hats are not for me.
(and cos I'd get high on my own supply)
nothing else?? Sounds a bit unhygienic.I was a teenage cheesemonger and I only had to wear a brown coat.
nothing else?? Sounds a bit unhygienic.
Mmmm visible rot.I was portioning and weighing coagulated mammary gland secretions. Some of them had visibly rotted. Hygiene was hardly a concern.
Are you neurodivergent by any chance?
Because I think lack of career progression, or sideways or even backwards moves, job-hopping, and changing career and starting over is a bit of a theme amongst ND folk, for a few reasons:
- we don't easily tolerate bullshit
- we have a strong sense of social justice so are likely to put our heads above the parapet and speak out about wrongdoing/unethical stuff/poor work practices, where NTs would just keep their heads down and get on with it
- we get pissed off easily, eg someone else mentioned not getting a promotion and it going to an external candidate. Something similar happened to me, in that I was recruited to an entry level role. My boss told me that when they next recruited two people to the same role, after I trained them, I would move up. He then leapfrogged both of them over me, and came up with the same bullshit, when we recruit again, you'll move up next time. I was pissed off and arranged a move to a different department, because I couldn't stand that my boss had lied to me, and so why would I believe him again, he might pull the same stunt next time. (I subsequently asked a more senior colleague who I'd worked with closely why they thought I'd not been promoted, and they told me that I was the best [role X] they'd had, so the reason I wasn't promoted was that I was basically too good at my job.)
- we get bored easily
- we're not very good at office politics - some people are able to schmooze their way up the greasy pole, but we're more likely to slide down it - and I often say that it's like some people have super advanced level office politics skills, like they have a PhD in office politics or something, the calculating Machiavellian types, and then most people are like regular level good at office politics, which to neurodivergent folk seems like advanced level, because I'm autistic and I feel like I'm in the remedial class when it comes to office politics, I suck at it.
- we're often misunderstood/misinterpreted, because being more likely to be very honest and straightforward, blunt even - as opposed to all the hinting and read-between-the-lines-ing style of NT communication skills - we're more likely to inadvertently wind people up and get people's backs up.
- we don't do the workplace friendship/socialising thing as well as NTs. I've found that workplace friendships that have seemed genuine at the time and have perhaps even extended to socialising outside work haven't been 'sticky' in that they've not often persisted after I've left, whereas NT folk seem to make and keep work friends more easily that then translate into real-life outside work friendships that last for years even after one or both have left that place of employment.
Place rhymes with Hetero-Wank.
That's quite a list what's the longest you've stayed in one job?oh heck...
1 resigned. bloody awful environment, heavily racist and just generally shitty
2 place went bust the first week i was there. i am confident this was a coincidence.
3 resigned. crap money.
4 got the push, allegedly redundancy / them wanting someone who could drive a van
5 resigned - needed to get out of parents' home and couldn't afford to stay in london
6 short term thing but it had accommodation included
7 various temporary / casual things, then got offered something on fixed term rather than casual
8 series of fixed term contracts at same place ended
9 resigned - job security wasn't great (council on the brink of 'bankruptcy') and wanted to move in with partner rather than do weekend commute thing
10 eventually resigned after spending too long fighting to stay where i wasn't wanted
11 TUPE transfer out when outsourcing contract re-tendered (although company wanted rid of anyone over 40 / in the old pension scheme)
12 voluntary redundancy from firm i got TUPEd to
13 (overlapped with 14) - wasn't a full time job
14 temporary thing pending closure of an office
15 resigned - pissed off with commuting to london and new job was more local
16 resigned - had decided to move back to london
17 resigned - london job was a mistake, and organisational issues there meant job security was limited
18 still there at the moment. not entirely sure it will survive the coming round of tory government cuts.
with 4, 8 and 10 i can't prove it but fairly sure there was management homophobia involved.
career - to move swiftly and in an uncontrolled way. e.g. "the coach careered across the road and went through a hedge"
That's quite a list what's the longest you've stayed in one job?
The first two on this list chime a lot with me - had my annual review recently at which my boss told me "honestly, we really value your 'speak truth to power' attitude" which I didn't really know I was doing so obviously.Are you neurodivergent by any chance?
Because I think lack of career progression, or sideways or even backwards moves, job-hopping, and changing career and starting over is a bit of a theme amongst ND folk, for a few reasons:
- we don't easily tolerate bullshit
- we have a strong sense of social justice so are likely to put our heads above the parapet and speak out about wrongdoing/unethical stuff/poor work practices, where NTs would just keep their heads down and get on with it
- we get pissed off easily, eg someone else mentioned not getting a promotion and it going to an external candidate. Something similar happened to me, in that I was recruited to an entry level role. My boss told me that when they next recruited two people to the same role, after I trained them, I would move up. He then leapfrogged both of them over me, and came up with the same bullshit, when we recruit again, you'll move up next time. I was pissed off and arranged a move to a different department, because I couldn't stand that my boss had lied to me, and so why would I believe him again, he might pull the same stunt next time. (I subsequently asked a more senior colleague who I'd worked with closely why they thought I'd not been promoted, and they told me that I was the best [role X] they'd had, so the reason I wasn't promoted was that I was basically too good at my job.)
- we get bored easily
- we're not very good at office politics - some people are able to schmooze their way up the greasy pole, but we're more likely to slide down it - and I often say that it's like some people have super advanced level office politics skills, like they have a PhD in office politics or something, the calculating Machiavellian types, and then most people are like regular level good at office politics, which to neurodivergent folk seems like advanced level, because I'm autistic and I feel like I'm in the remedial class when it comes to office politics, I suck at it.
- we're often misunderstood/misinterpreted, because being more likely to be very honest and straightforward, blunt even - as opposed to all the hinting and read-between-the-lines-ing style of NT communication skills - we're more likely to inadvertently wind people up and get people's backs up.
- we don't do the workplace friendship/socialising thing as well as NTs. I've found that workplace friendships that have seemed genuine at the time and have perhaps even extended to socialising outside work haven't been 'sticky' in that they've not often persisted after I've left, whereas NT folk seem to make and keep work friends more easily that then translate into real-life outside work friendships that last for years even after one or both have left that place of employment.
I'm back and practising terrible Forum etiquette by quoting myself!I got a job at 59!
I'll fully reply later as I have to go to work!
I didn't like being a Chippendale as people kept sitting on me.Yeah I didn’t like being a chippendale much either
(Edit beaten to it by loom)
Bad boss.I know everyone says the #1 reason people leave jobs is bad bosses, but why have you left jobs?