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She looks like a strangely beautiful painting Trashpony (nan not the cat). My nan was much younger than yours when she died, but she looked a bit like yours, really honed down to the skull and bone structure - thin and old but somehow very pure.
 
trashpony said:
She was a strong lady :) Now she's a bit of a shell tbh. I hope she dies soon - she's not living, she's alive iyswim.

Sorry if that sounds callous but she really has had enough.
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I know what you mean, it doesn't sound callous to me.
My grandmother lived to be 103 and she used to say towards the end that she wished "the good Lord would take her".
I bet she was great lady - that generation was strong!
 
trashpony said:
She was a strong lady :) Now she's a bit of a shell tbh. I hope she dies soon - she's not living, she's alive iyswim.

Sorry if that sounds callous but she really has had enough.
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No I get that totally. My great grandma lived till she was 98 and by the end had a stroke, couldn't talk and couldn't really move. When my mum visited her she just used to point to the sky because she wanted to go to Heaven. My mum was sad when she died, but pleased too; she was at peace and had gone, which was the best thing and what she wanted.
 
The old mog looks, t'me, like an old mog, oldish but not ready to go yet. Your nan looks amazing, you can tell she's had quite a life. I'm sorry she's not enjoying it enough to want to stick around some time yet but I wish her, and the mog all the best for as long as they have with us.

I dunno, I guess the end of life comes to us all and trying to accept it has to come to other living beings is a bitch of a thing. Just enjoy every minute, is the tiny bit of useless advice I can give.
 
izz said:
The old mog looks, t'me, like an old mog, oldish but not ready to go yet. Your nan looks amazing, you can tell she's had quite a life. I'm sorry she's not enjoying it enough to want to stick around some time yet but I wish her, and the mog all the best for as long as they have with us.

I dunno, I guess the end of life comes to us all and trying to accept it has to come to other living beings is a bitch of a thing. Just enjoy every minute, is the tiny bit of useless advice I can give.
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Yeah, I hope my old girl goes on a bit longer.

My nan's virtually deaf, been blind for about 20 years and has very little quality of life nowadays. She was pretty ok until after her 100th birthday - she was living on her own until just before that birthday. I don't mean because she's deaf and blind but she's lost her senses as a result of old age rather than having adapted to them. She used to have a really strong grip - she was a very skilled seamstress and handmade curtains for loads of posh places, including the Sanderson Hotel. When I was a kid, there were always pins on the carpet in her house - it was my job to go round with a massive magnet and try and find them :cool:
 
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Our cat is coming up to 18 now, last one of his litter left and he was the runt. He gets all the peace and quiet he likes since he went completely deaf! The only other sign of his age is that he clambers up onto the sofa rather than delicately pounces but he's doing alright for an old boy really. He went a bit skinny in his old age too so my parents now give him loads of scraps (basically whatever meat is on their plate when they're eating), so now he begs and begs for food all the time! He even took a swipe at my bran flakes the other day the cheeky bugger!
 
Mala cat is also aging and I was dreading coming home to bad news this weekend as she wasn't 100% when I headed south but she's ok atm. I agree with not getting a kitten when your cat is in her 'dotage'. Mala has never tolerated other cats in her garden let alone the idea of a newbie in her house!
 
My mates cat died of old age a couple of weeks ago. She had got very thin and was a shadow of her former self. She still went outside, but didn't wander far. One day a couple of days before she died my mate returned home to find someone had pushed a note through his door saying "you're starving your cat! i've taken it to the vets"
My mate and his partner were distraught. Had to travel to a vet the other side of town (they'd not even took her to a local one) dreading that she would've been put down (she was not in any pain or distress, but obvious that she wasn't going to last much longer).
Thankfully she was still there, and she passed away peacefully on my mates lap a few days later
 
mr steev said:
My mates cat died of old age a couple of weeks ago. She had got very thin and was a shadow of her former self. She still went outside, but didn't wander far. One day a couple of days before she died my mate returned home to find someone had pushed a note through his door saying "you're starving your cat! i've taken it to the vets"
My mate and his partner were distraught. Had to travel to a vet the other side of town (they'd not even took her to a local one) dreading that she would've been put down (she was not in any pain or distress, but obvious that she wasn't going to last much longer).
Thankfully she was still there, and she passed away peacefully on my mates lap a few days later
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Oh that's so sad. What an odd thing to do, I mean, it's nice that they cared but the fact that they instantly jumped to the conclusion that the poor cat was being starved rather than old. :facepalm:
 
Yu_Gi_Oh said:
Oh that's so sad. What an odd thing to do, I mean, it's nice that they cared but the fact that they instantly jumped to the conclusion that the poor cat was being starved rather than old. :facepalm:
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Some people are very stupid - I'm sure my cat looks like she's half-starved and very badly cared for to someone who doesn't know much about old cats :(

smmudge - Chip looks like a kitten! :cool:
 
Yu_Gi_Oh said:
Oh that's so sad. What an odd thing to do, I mean, it's nice that they cared but the fact that they instantly jumped to the conclusion that the poor cat was being starved rather than old. :facepalm:
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I can see that she meant well, but his cat had a collar on (that's how she knew where to post the letter). How many neglected cats wear collars? and if she'd seen the address, why not try and speak to the owner
The vet she took her to was over 5 miles away too!
 
My elderly lady is 17/18 (she was a stray kitten when we got her so not exactly sure) and she is getting scraggy and skinny and very sleepy and lazy. The other day she was sleeping on the desk with her head lolling over the edge when I came into the room and I couldn't see her breathing. I gave her a nudge and got nothing and my heart was in my mouth, then I gave her another nudge and she woke up and gave me the dirtiest look ever :D. The rest of that day I watched her like a hawk and noticed that her breathing isn't very even any more.


However, she still seems happy enough, she is still eating, still giving the other cat a swipe when he needs it and still sitting in the middle of the corridor when it's dark and trying to trip me up!

One of my previous cats died of natural causes when she was 17. I woke up in the morning and she was lying down on the living room floor all solid. I can't say it was a particularly nice experience but at least she died at home.
 
I kind of hope that's how Itchy goes. I had to take one cat to the vet to be put down and she was so scared of being there that although I was holding her and stroking her, it wasn't exactly relaxed.

What does one do with a dead cat incidentally? :oops:
 
trashy, your nan has really good skin, not a lot of wrinkles, given her age - what a beautiful photo.

I don't want to get to be that old, not unless I have the mind & body of a 60 year old! Not sure longevity it's all it's cracked up to be, in my experience it often isn't. That's just life I guess.
 
I was working in Switzerland recently and was told by a colleague that if your pet dies, you have to report it to the police :eek:

I think I will take her to the vet and have her cremated. Don't fancy a burial.
 
When our cats go (one of them nearly did last year) I'd like to bury them in the garden, but that's probably not even allowed, for public health reasons or something...

edit: quick google reveals it has to be buried very deep, so maybe cremating the scattering ashes is more practical and sensible.
 
trashpony said:
What does one do with a dead cat incidentally? :oops:
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I was renting and so the garden wasn't an option. I (read my mum who I called in a panic, I was only 18) called the vets and we were given the options.

1 - A communal cremation with all the other dead animals - for about £50
2 - An individual cremation and I would get the ashes back - for about £100
3 - A standard burial in a pet cemetary - for about £200.

All of those prices were from 1997 so I expect inflation has taken it's toll.
 
Iirc it was 'only' about 20 quid to give our cat a communal cremation, but in excess of a hundred for an individual one. This was at a small local vets though, and cash. I'd imagine they'd charge more if insurance was involved
 
girasol said:
edit: quick google reveals it has to be buried very deep, so maybe cremating the scattering ashes is more practical and sensible.
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Could you link to that please because my quick google says you can bury your pet as long as it doesn't present a hazard, and I found out you can actually bury a loved one in the garden if you meet various rules! :eek:
 
We buried all our pets in the garden when we were kids. I had Spook cremated at the vets, we didn't want her ashes back so it was cheapish. I know my friend paid a lot of money for an individual cremation for hers, as her husband insisted on having the ashes and burying them in the garden with a tree planted over them.
 
trashpony said:
What does one do with a dead cat incidentally? :oops:
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...or if you feel really ambitious:

 
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