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Thanks for the reply. They've asked me to bring ID and any other documents such as bank statements, wage slips etc. Are these a necessity? I don't work and I online bank and don't want them snooping through my account. Can they access my account without permission if I don't bring the statements? If so I'd rather print them off. They haven't specified what time period of statements they'd like to see so it's all very vague. I'm worried that they will say that my children's father isn't allowed to see that at my house as much as he is. That'd be awful as my two month old can't go anywhere without my breasts!
get some help from the CAB if you can, cause some of this can get complicated
some busybody has probably called them and said your ex is living there.
they always ask for bank statements, but you are entitled to maintanance for the children. and that dosen't affect benefits. what they want to do is use an nuncertain set of 'rules' to determine if you are a couple.
https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/income-support-technical-guidance
What we mean by 'living together as a married couple’
If two people share their lives in the same way as a married couple, we consider that they are living together as if they are a married couple even though they are not married. We need to know if you are living together as if you are married so that any benefits you may be able to get are worked out correctly. If you are living together as if you are married, we call the person you are living with your partner.
What we mean by 'partner' We use partner to mean
• a person you are married to or a person you live with as if you are married to them, or
• a civil partner.
What difference does living together as a married couple make to Income Support?
When we work out entitlement to Income Support, we treat all claimants with partners the same way. There is no difference between couples who are married, or have formed civil partnerships, or live together as a married couple.
This is to make sure that couples who choose to marry or form civil partnerships are not treated any more or less favourably than those who do not.
Why we need more information
You may already have been asked some questions about your living arrangements. If your situation is still not clear, someone will interview you about
your circumstances to see if you share your life together in the same way as a married couple. It would be helpful if the person you share your accommodation with is also present at the interview, but if this is not possible do not worry.
The person who interviews you will ask you about: • how you came to share accommodation • how you share your home and your lives, and • what plans you have for the future, if any.
You will not be asked if you have a sexual relationship, but you may want to tell the person who interviews you whether you have a sexual relationship or not, because this will help them get a clearer picture of your life.
The person who interviews you will note down what you say, using your own words. At the end of the interview you will be able to read your statement yourself or have it read back to you. You will then be asked if you want to add or change anything before you sign your statement.
We do not have a checklist of questions to ask you. There is no single factor that will show that you are living together as a married couple. For example, just because you share financial responsibilities we will not necessarily consider that you are living together as a married couple.
What happens after the interview?
Your claim form and statement will be sent to a Decision Maker who will look at your answers and decide if your life together is like a marriage. When making this decision they will consider all the information you provide. They will then write and tell you of their decision.
If they think that your life together is like a marriage, they will decide that you are living together as a married couple.
If they think that your life together is not like a marriage, they will decide that you are not living together a married couple.
If you have only recently started to live in the same accommodation, they may decide that your life together is not at present like a marriage and will look at your case again at a later date. They will write to you again about this.
If you are unhappy with our decision on living together
See our section on What to do if you think our decision is wrong for more information.
DWP
i wonder if it would be worthwhile focussing on stating that he is staying to spend time caring for his children. focus on it being about the needs of the child, not about helping you. helping you could be interpreted as relationshippy. being a paren't less so. you're putting aside your personal feelings about the man who abandoned you while pregnant to facilitate his relationship with the children. you have no intention of restarting a sexual relationship with this man and contact will be in a more usual fashion when the kids are older.
maybee.
but you really need proper help on this one. cause it is complicated and the 'rules' are wooley
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