putting my hands up here ( and it's a bit of a sudden conversion, I'll admit) , but having seen the sheer violence / vitriol / hatred in the link
co-op put up, ie : the context in which TERF is being sprayed about by some online, I see both your p.o.v.'s a bit clearer here , and I'd be reluctant to use the term in a public facing context going fwd now.
Think it's probably pretty obvious everyone needs to do what they can to try and diffuse all this.... it's just crazy to have to be thinking of the likes of Helen S as some kind of political opponent .