friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
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Combating hopelessness
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frogwoman
No amount of cajolery...
Also i highly recommend if you've ever felt that you're shit at your job or that you struggle in dealing with people, to read The Art of The Deal by a certain Donald J. Trump. It's very good at reassuring the Project 2025 worries as well. The guy is batshit. Utterly unhinged.
Puddy_Tat
naturally fluffy
as i think i've said elsewhere on here, i have a bit of a
with the mindfulness stuff i have seen - seems to be very much 'stay in your lane, accept your station in life, put up with the shit the establishment throws at you, don't make waves'although it's possible it's random platitude generator like the 'astrology' in the tabloids and may not bear any resemblance to what mindfulness was meant to be.
having said that, yes, there's a limit to just how many battles any individual can fight.
redsquirrel
This Machine Kills Progressives
IMO that certainly is how employers increasingly use it.as i think i've said elsewhere on here, i have a bit of a
There's a mental health and safety issue in this area - take a stress risk assessment and do some wellbeing exercises.
Rather than the responsibility being on the employer to fix the root cause of the problem, the responsibility of looking after mental health becomes that of individual employees.
Puddy_Tat
naturally fluffy
and in general, i'm not doing all that well with the hopelessness thing.
(conscious this isn't in k+s) so on a personal level will just say that national / local political circumstances means redundancy may be coming next year
bits of social media from the US consist of a mix of people frightened about the next 4 years (or longer) and trying to come up with options for moving to a (hopefully) better state, or leaving the country altogether, or wanting to rush to sort out medical or legal situations, e.g. entering in to same sex marriages before they are banned (although i have an idea that s-s marriages in some states got annulled once before) and noticing that people are taking rainbow (etc) flags down from being visible on their homes and so on.
and other people offering what help they can to people in those situations. i'm not convinced it's going to be enough.
and the idea that if it's not a complete disaster (from the view of the republicans' polling, rather than for people on the receiving end of it) can see the tories / refuck going for the same sort of line in 2028 / 29 when it comes to challenging an uninspiring centrist incumbent party that hasn't delivered much at ground level.
at the moment, i don't feel like i've got the energy to join the resistance movement...
(conscious this isn't in k+s) so on a personal level will just say that national / local political circumstances means redundancy may be coming next year
bits of social media from the US consist of a mix of people frightened about the next 4 years (or longer) and trying to come up with options for moving to a (hopefully) better state, or leaving the country altogether, or wanting to rush to sort out medical or legal situations, e.g. entering in to same sex marriages before they are banned (although i have an idea that s-s marriages in some states got annulled once before) and noticing that people are taking rainbow (etc) flags down from being visible on their homes and so on.
and other people offering what help they can to people in those situations. i'm not convinced it's going to be enough.
and the idea that if it's not a complete disaster (from the view of the republicans' polling, rather than for people on the receiving end of it) can see the tories / refuck going for the same sort of line in 2028 / 29 when it comes to challenging an uninspiring centrist incumbent party that hasn't delivered much at ground level.
at the moment, i don't feel like i've got the energy to join the resistance movement...
BigMoaner
What A Load of Old Bollocks
Stopping social media can help i find. of course it;s not the only solution. but if you're largely powerless to affect things, then what's the point in reading about things you are powerless over? for all that i want to help people, i cannot do that without looking out for myself, managing my own mental and emotional life. thing is, what iwth the average human spending about 5 hours a day on their phone, we are so immeshed, so pulled around by this stuff. it's not just tut tut social media rolls eyes, this stuff kind of is reality now. we buy into so many narratives. exhausting.
Puddy_Tat
naturally fluffy
i'm not on social media a lot (i regard urban as more anti-social media
) but it's the only way of keeping contact with some people / circles
Eivets Rednow
Member
My take on combating hopelessness is that for me, becoming a truer version of myself is helping. I try to take intentional actions wherever I go, and connect with people. I can’t say that it is easy as sometimes we all feel hopeless, however I think I have found a path to walk through to make the changes to the world around me. Education and career combined, leading to better, more complex decision making and strategies.
friendofdorothy
Solidarity against neoliberalism!
Welcome. Thanks for your reply. I have a few questions:
What do you mean by a truer version of yourself?
How do you find your path to walk through the changes?
Tell me more about your complex decision making.
Eivets Rednow
Member
Hello, thank you for your interest.
I spent a long time hiding away, pretending to be someone else. This morphed into pretending to be someone’s wife. I wasn’t happy. I also wasn’t aware of how much I was faking it until it started to slip out in tells when I was out and about talking to people in certain contexts. To my own surprise, I ended things really quickly when I couldn’t ignore the flood of feelings that had overwhelmed me. I’ve decided to follow my feelings now, and see what that brings. I had already started the process of following my feelings and not pretending in my professional life, so my personal life just needed to catch up. And thankfully it has.
The path is a fantasy. It exists in my mind. I’ve built alternative universes which are a shadow world of reality which have been helping me to understand reality differently. These fantasy paths could take me anywhere, even outer space. It means I look at the mundane world with its tarmac and kerbs with a renewed sense of wonder. Magic in the everyday… I also like to follow trails, that’s fun. Like trying to catch pixies or trolls, except these are people doing weird things. Then I make changes along these paths, wherever I spot an opportunity.
My decision making has improved over time. Learning about project management helped. I read a lot of different things in non-judgemental way. I’m trying to understand how things work. The more I learn, and connect that learning to my previous learning, I’m able to make better decisions. Some of the things I do might look like they defy logic, but that is just another thing that I find hilarious.