Colleagues complaining about you to the boss
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weltweit
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Not exactly the same but I told a funny story to one of our managers last week about something I got up to at the weekend.
He then told my manager and director, in my company, but then he told the whole factory while they were in the canteen on their lunch break.
If I had wanted the whole factory to know, I would have told them myself!
He then told my manager and director, in my company, but then he told the whole factory while they were in the canteen on their lunch break.
If I had wanted the whole factory to know, I would have told them myself!
maomao
普費斯
Aren't you going to share the funny story with us?
danny la rouge
More like *fanny* la rouge!
weltweit
Well-Known Member
One day, when I have photographic evidence
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Over the years this happens every now and again
I really hate it. It makes me feel like shit.
You disagree with what I'm doing? Fine. Talk to me
I make a mistake? Just tell me.
Don't go running to the boss behind my back.
Yes, though a good boss will just say “don’t be a grass - tell them don’t snitch”
Alex
wiskey
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I've had this situation over the past few months at work.
There was never any question I did anything wrong and nothing has been put on my file and everyone seems to be on my side .. If anything I feel sorry for my accuser because she apparently got caught up in a chain of events that she didn't intend, but if you throw around a word like 'bullying' you can't put it back in the box ... It's been a shit summer really because of it though.
There was never any question I did anything wrong and nothing has been put on my file and everyone seems to be on my side .. If anything I feel sorry for my accuser because she apparently got caught up in a chain of events that she didn't intend, but if you throw around a word like 'bullying' you can't put it back in the box ... It's been a shit summer really because of it though.
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chilango
Hypothetical Wanker
It hasn't happened to.me that often. But has happened about once in every workplace I've had pretty much.
In all cases it's not led to anything more than an informal chat with the bosses. So in that sense no harm done.
On the other it's really demoralising that someone would do that. I try to be friendly and approachable and would always bend over backwards to help colleagues. And yet...somehow manage to provoke this.
I feel disliked or distrusted or that maybe I'm actually crap at my job. Evidence to the contrary goes out of the window and the toxicity of doubt creeps in.
Perhaps I should be more resilient? Maybe I should investigate ways to be more assertive or to protect my self-esteem. Or maybe they're right and I am in the wrong line of work. Maybe I should stop being so nice and project more of a "don't fuck with me" persona. But that's not me.
All of these negative thoughts caused by relatively minor things - a difference of approach perhaps, or poor communication or a momentary mistake.
Is it just me?
In all cases it's not led to anything more than an informal chat with the bosses. So in that sense no harm done.
On the other it's really demoralising that someone would do that. I try to be friendly and approachable and would always bend over backwards to help colleagues. And yet...somehow manage to provoke this.
I feel disliked or distrusted or that maybe I'm actually crap at my job. Evidence to the contrary goes out of the window and the toxicity of doubt creeps in.
Perhaps I should be more resilient? Maybe I should investigate ways to be more assertive or to protect my self-esteem. Or maybe they're right and I am in the wrong line of work. Maybe I should stop being so nice and project more of a "don't fuck with me" persona. But that's not me.
All of these negative thoughts caused by relatively minor things - a difference of approach perhaps, or poor communication or a momentary mistake.
Is it just me?
Fozzie Bear
Well-Known Member
It’s not just you!
I find what helps is to have other colleagues you can moan to about the grasses.
I find what helps is to have other colleagues you can moan to about the grasses.
Steel Icarus
we move
Sorry to hear it chilango
Had this happen to me when I was a TA in an FE college. My immediate supervisor went above HER boss to a member of the SLT about me, so suddenly I was under investigation - but nobody would tell me what for. To this day I don't know. I walked out and never returned, cos fuck that shit.
Had this happen to me when I was a TA in an FE college. My immediate supervisor went above HER boss to a member of the SLT about me, so suddenly I was under investigation - but nobody would tell me what for. To this day I don't know. I walked out and never returned, cos fuck that shit.
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
I've had it a few times in the past. Usually it seems to result due to their insecurities, but my manager at the time could shitstir with the best, so equally they could have made a throwaway comment.
No-one ever took me aside and said they'd had a problem with anything I'd done. Sometimes, it's not about you. It's about them deflecting onto you to make themselves themselves feel better.
No-one ever took me aside and said they'd had a problem with anything I'd done. Sometimes, it's not about you. It's about them deflecting onto you to make themselves themselves feel better.
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redsquirrel
This Machine Kills Progressives
This
Poot
My wife thinks I work too hard
I think someone seriously asked themselves WWJD.Why?!
bellaozzydog
rolling turds in glitter
I accepted along time ago that as long as I'm doing what it says in the contract not to give a fuck about the job, and certainly don't let anything generated by the job affect my mental health. Snitches and back stabbers in the workplace inevitably are the most woeful human beings and envious haters. Hopefully management see this and just ignore it.
Keep being friendly and approachable and help other colleagues. The universe always balances shit out and pays back. You are on the winning team you just need to keep reminding yourself
If they keep doing it kill them with a chainsaw
Over the years this happens every now and again
I really hate it. It makes me feel like shit.
You disagree with what I'm doing? Fine. Talk to me
I make a mistake? Just tell me.
Don't go running to the boss behind my back.
Some bosses encourage it. Particularly vulnerable to this are agency/contract workers
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