If 'gender identity' is just 'how you see yourself', then it's not hard to see that some others may have their own 'gender identity', or that it could be at odds with their sex (in fact, unless you think every trans person is lying, it's pretty undeniable). But, so what? Why is how people see themselves determinative of what they are? Some people think they're the reincarnation of Napoleon, or that they're God's messenger. Why should an individualistic conception of gender trump a socially constructed one? Particularly for feminists? After all, historically, women have been oppressed as a result of the material reality of their (as a class) biology, not because of how they saw themselves; and that oppresssion has been enacted upon them by society, not from within the individual. All of which is a different question from whether or not we should treat people compassionately, although it becomes blurred where they overlap - the philosphical question of 'what is a woman', and the moral question of how a society should treat trans people.
so what eh!! if they're not normal fuck em, they should fit in or fuck off
oh come onErrr, is that addressed at me? If so, you don't seem to have read/understood what I wrote.
you don't see this as problematic?But, so what? Why is how people see themselves determinative of what they are? Some people think they're the reincarnation of Napoleon, or that they're God's messenger.
society/the majority knows best/ fit in or fuck off (or at the very least keep quiet)Why should an individualistic conception of gender trump a socially constructed one?
oh come on
you don't see this as problematic?
"all kinds of nutters making all kinds of claims" comparing people with gender dysphoria to deluded people
society/the majority knows best/ fit in or fuck off (or at the very least keep quiet)
2 - 3 women per week murdered. Just let that sink in.
Do trans people kill them?
I think we may be talking at cross purposes.
The point I’m getting at is that I support the rights of trans people to be treated as human beings, not to be subject to violence and discrimination.
I don’t agree with self-ID of ‘gender’ (because I don’t agree that’s how gender works), I don’t think ‘trans women are women’ (because I agree with sex based definitions).
I don’t accept there’s any incongruence in my position. I’m happy to be shown I’m wrong.
It's not about accountability or blame. It's just about how the process of identity works, and what consequences flow from it. You can only choose the identity you present, you cannot choose the identity that is imposed. It's been studied a lot, going back at least 30 years.
One of the seminal pieces of research was this one concerning the identity that comes with being homeless, written way back in 1987, and it's well worth a read. If you can't be arsed to read the whole thing, I suggest focusing on the conclusion that starts on p29 of the pdf (which is p1363 of the journal). That's where he discusses the implications of his ethnographic research for our understanding of the wider model of identity. On p1367 he starts getting into tension between imposed (i.e. "social") and adopted (i.e. "personal") identity:
In his concluding paragraph, he sums up the central question:
This basic idea gets missed a lot when debates solely concentrate on the identities people claim for themselves. It's like one half of 30 years of research has been totally ignored or, more realistically, that people are using concepts like "identity" without understanding that although this is straightforward on the surface, there's actually a lot of depth to it that goes beyond what you can fit into a twitter soundbite.
Do trans people kill them?
I just said a small proportion of trans lesbians hold those views. Not sure of how your post refutes mine.
Do trans people kill them?
What is the connection between sexuality and trans gender? Are most trans gender people straight (ie if they remained their original gender they would be gay)? A trans lesbian would be a trans gender woman who fancies women.If you follow the thread, you'll see that
What's a trans lesbian?
What is the connection between sexuality and trans gender? Are most trans gender people straight (ie if they remained their original gender they would be gay)? A trans lesbian would be a trans gender woman who fancies women.
There's not any connection in the sense of one causing the other. Trans people can be straight, gay, bi or any other sexual orientation just like cis/non trans/[insert preferred terminology here] people.
There's probably stats somewhere but I cba to look right now (my head's telling me I've read something saying trans people are more likely to be LGB+ but I might be confusing multiple half-remembered facts there)
<snip> I’m not trans gender, so I say this with caution. But maybe ‘feeling’ the wrong gender is feeling you are better suited to that position in society? Maybe hormones in utero, or the structure of your brain, or your natural disposition, or just a choice. No mind why, other than from scientific curiosity.
But I think I’m more like MadeInBedlam when I think that maybe the better solution is to allow people to cherry pick the parts of gender roles that fit and sod the rest. <snip>
To be honest it’s not really up to you? If a trans woman is attracted to women, then that’s just how it is?I don't accept that a transwoman can be a lesbian. There seem to be a lot of male-bodied TW accusing lesbians of transphobia cos they don't want to suck cock. There's many trans women who would never make this demand, but the loudest voices out there at the moment are from the former.
I see. Thanks for that iona(Obligatory "can't speak for any other trans people besides myself" disclaimer)
Transition isn't just about that stuff though. I completely agree that people should be free to be & do what they want without pressure to conform to gender roles, but I don't see that necessarily being a solution or alternative to transition.
My breasts aren't gender roles. My voice pitch isn't a gender role. The hair on my face—and my chest and my stomach and increasingly everyfuckingwhere—isn't a gender role. Neither are my genitals or the hormone levels that affect those things. If I woke up tomorrow to find the patriarchy had been dismantled and gender roles abolished and all the rest of it I'd be pleased, but I'd still be trans.
To be honest it’s not really up to you? If a trans woman is attracted to women, then that’s just how it is?
It is of course utterly unacceptable that any person (trans woman or not) should demand anyone else perform sex acts on them. And would very much hope and expect that not to happen in real life?
Do you know any trans women?I don't accept that a transwoman can be a lesbian. There seem to be a lot of male-bodied TW accusing lesbians of transphobia cos they don't want to suck cock. There's many trans women who would never make this demand, but the loudest voices out there at the moment are from the former.
So what would you call a cis lesbian, who was happy to be in a relationship with their trans woman partner, but not with cis men?For me, the definition of a lesbian is a female who is attracted to other females. Perhaps I'm too long in the tooth to see it otherwise.
I’m pretty long in the tooth too, and I find it gets very complicated quickly when you add in trying to think about sexuality. I guess by that stage it very definitely isn’t any of our business though. After all trans women cannot demand that lesbians find them attractive, any more than lesbians can or would demand that straight women find them attractive.For me, the definition of a lesbian is a female who is attracted to other females. Perhaps I'm too long in the tooth to see it otherwise.
I see. Thanks for that iona
So it’s much more ‘wrong body’ for you?
(Apologies for crude phrasing).
Iona what would you like to see in terms of changes? (To society, not yourself xx)
I’m pretty long in the tooth too, and I find it gets very complicated quickly when you add in trying to think about sexuality. I guess by that stage it very definitely isn’t any of our business though. After all trans women cannot demand that lesbians find them attractive, any more than lesbians can or would demand that straight women find them attractive.
I think that us non trans women can raise concerns about trans women being in spaces where we feel vulnerable (wards, changing rooms) and in representing us in politics, but it’s surely not our concern whether they consider themselves lesbians?
The more I think about this issue the harder it is to pin down what exactly it is that feels threatening. The likelihood of a trans woman who is gay raping me in a changing room seems very improbable. She’d probably be more concerned with getting her cossie on under a towel while not dropping her knickers in a puddle like me. But nonetheless it still makes me anxious that I might not know a male bodied person was there.
I don't think there are many trans people who would take umbrage with what you've said (not that I can speak for them).
... trans women cannot demand that lesbians find them attractive, any more than lesbians can or would demand that straight women find them attractive.
I think that us non trans women can raise concerns about trans women being in spaces where we feel vulnerable (wards, changing rooms) and in representing us in politics...
... it still makes me anxious that I might not know a male bodied person was there.