I have been a bit rubbish too,
bimble. I have decided to forgive myself (at least a bit) for this because there have been some lovely flowers passing through my life, this year, as every other year...but mostly without much intervention from myself. The writing has been on the wall (well, actually, in the soil) for a few years but I have mostly ignored it. I have been generally using my allotment as a sort of holding area for plants I get a little craving for and either raise from seeds or cuttings or buy from nurseries, roadside stalls, swaps and so so...and after a couple of decades of this untramelled hoarding, there are parts of my plot which are impassable at this time of year (and where opportunistic weeds and garden hooligans run amok in undisturbed ferment (fucking mallows and centranthus, I am naming as the current worst threats, closely followed by the usual bindweed, couch and fat hen triumvirate of grief). Consequently, since getting there involves a shortish bike ride, it is fairly easy to spend many days idling in a state of undress, faffing about with kitchen crafts.
I nipped in to pick up one of the strimmers (to take to the wood, also somewhat out of control), in the rain, so it was almost lovely, in its uncouth exuberance, but nobody enjoys crawling around under trees growing sideways or collapsed wild roses and traipsing up and down the length (some 70 metres or so) in an obstacle course of thorn and snaking ankle height vines is not conducive to enjoyment or inspiration. Plus, I cannot ignore the feeble vegetables (which I grow as a sort of guilt remover but have little love or interest there). Anyway, as I have been telling myself for the last 4 years or so, I need to be brave and get a plan of action and some assistance together to deal with the fabulous, but ludicrously vicious and gigantic roses and trees (which seemed cute and harmless in their seedling stages, but are now behemoths, tangling together in rampant disarray. The only solution involves spades and chainsaws (which, tbh, fill me with dismay)...and is easily dismissed during the spring months when paths are usable and beds have some delineation.
I admit to feeling a sort of existential dread, not helped by the state of the horsebox in the wood. I get this horrible sense that everything is just falling into decay (including myself) and really lack the fortitude to keep holding off the effects of age and weather, without either money or strength. My daughter has a new squeeze who is definitely making her really happy (so obviously, so am I) but can't help feeling my job in life is done (all 3 of the offspring are out in the world, competent and independent) so I can just fall into decreptitude. Gods, this is some grim shit. Hope I can talk myself out of this soon (but grey skies do not help one bit).
I also lost my yarn while getting out at a petrol station to examine some gnarly Scots Pines...which is even more enraging as I had just hauled this knitting project out of a multi-year hibernation. I am 2/3rds of the way through an endless project involving beautiful (and spendy) wool which can now not be found anywhere.
I do think I am off the hook for the bank holiday party though as issues with generators, transport and such are causing a rethink. Not sure whether to be relieved or dismayed. And also feeling faint tendrils of fear as this impending talk I am supposed to do, gets nearer. O FFS.
Apols for rambling and tedious posting.