I recognised this in my post. I was aware that you could derive a social ethics from your ethic - my point was that it wasn't central. When it comes down to it, your ethic is about you not about others.
I fail to see that. I'm talking about an ethic i try to adhere to, and one that many others do too. It is only about me in so far as i practise it.
My reason for talking about it is that i feel there are too many ethics, some of which end up being imposed on others by society's dictats. I feel they have become a tool with which to manipulate people.
Additionally, one culture will have an ethic that in another culture such behaviour would not cause a problem. It seems to me that love is a universal concept and ethic that can guide all human behaviour towards a peaceful co-existence, surely what ethics is all about?