Help me write a response to an email, it's a bit sexist (construction industry) ..
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isvicthere?
a.k.a. floppybollocks
Talking about titty calendars, when did "peanut" cards disappear? You know, a cardboard stand covered by bags of peanuts, and the more bags purchased and removed, the more of the scantily-clad "stunna" below was revealed.
danny la rouge
More like *fanny* la rouge!
Early 80s, I think. I remember them in pubs.
isvicthere?
a.k.a. floppybollocks
I associate them with the '70s, so yeah, probably right.
Winot
I wholeheartedley agree with your viewpoint
Still around in the late 80s when I started going to pubs.
danny la rouge
More like *fanny* la rouge!
Really? That surprises me. But you must be right.
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
At least guys had a history of being used for mixed gender groups.
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
I was not aware of peanut cards, that's a new one (or old one, rather).
nogojones
spelling is overrated
I was working in a pub 84-86 and they were still in use then.
I managed to persuade (well shame) my crew to drop nude calenders in the late 90's and then it was only when the first woman started working on shift.
Later that that, I remember them too, in the Midlands.
I only started going in pubs in the very late 80s
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
I'll be honest, this used to happen a lot more frequently at my last company. Sexism was really embedded in the company culture.
These days it's largely occasion, as I no longer work with a bunch of dickheads.
These days it's largely occasion, as I no longer work with a bunch of dickheads.
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
Or better, laydeez or biatches.
The bloke in my office used to stand up for a stretch, then rub his thighs à la Vic Reeves at his calendar, this would have been late 90s but in the main office.
can't you address the issue without being passive aggressive and pandering to ''the lads'' i.e just be aggressive.
Again, that's almost my instinct but no, not really
No, it is the right way to go.
Fuck that, why should you have to make it in to comical situation? I'd rather people think I was a cunt than a delicate flower who they have to pussy foot around.
strung out
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When I had a team to manage, I addressed my team of 8 women as 'Hi guys' occasionally in e-mails. Is it a sexist thing you're complaining about or just the over familiarity of the greeting? Genuinely interested, as I had a really good (and laid back) relationship with my team, where sticking to something more formal or impersonal didn't feel right.
Lurdan
old wave
According to this the 'saucy' versions of the Big D snack cards were phased out in the 1990s following 'a PC backlash'.
But were reintroduced in 2017 for its 30th anniversary.
BigD's saucy girl cards return as part of major brand relaunch - Morning Advertiser
#makingbritaingreatagain
But were reintroduced in 2017 for its 30th anniversary.
BigD's saucy girl cards return as part of major brand relaunch - Morning Advertiser
#makingbritaingreatagain
They know I'm not that, but this isn't my direct boss, or his boss, it's the next one up.
Set his house on fire then.
nogojones
spelling is overrated
I found humour and withering put downs worked best. There's normally only one or two proper sexists in a bunch and the others just go along as it feels like custom and practice. If you can pick off the worst and make them just look a bit sleazy you get a bit more backing
Spymaster
Plastic Paddy
This is the way to go. Chances are he doesn't realise what he's doing and will stop it if you let him know it annoys you. If he carries on, then get inventive.
I'll play devils advocate and say still go with being upfront and if they don't like it you go for sexual discrimination.
#bows out#
equationgirl
Respect my existence or expect my resistance
Poot
My wife thinks I work too hard
Guys always feels like it could be either sex. But it is a bit Cliff Richard.
blairsh
pale knuckle grip on this steering wheel
Or Cartman
StoneRoad
heckling from the back!
One boss I had a few years ago was a "Hi Guys" type - and this was in a mixed office.
Eventually, he was elbowed (harder than a nudge) into using "gals n guys" and that got shortened to G&G ...
As for "Tits n Bums" calendars - I worked at an internationally renowned firm of consulting engineers a couple of decades earlier, at a time when it was common to have a series of office juniors / school leavers traipsing around collecting and delivering internal mail, typing and filing. One day, I found one of the younger more impressionable lasses almost in tears, waiting for the lift - after a lot of persuasion, she told me that she had been upset by a not even slightly tasteful calendar in one of the small side offices. After making sure she was alright, I took it upon myself to investigate (there had been an instruction to stop displaying such things a few weeks previously - this particular group had merely moved it to somewhere it wasn't visible from the door. The new place was on the side of a cupboard, next to the table with their in / out trays ... I said to them that it wasn't acceptable even there ! I had a word with the more senior woman who corralled the office juniors, whose complaint was the likely cause of the original instruction, I suggested that she got a "Chippendales" type calendar and put it up in her office ... she did and only took it down months later.
Eventually, he was elbowed (harder than a nudge) into using "gals n guys" and that got shortened to G&G ...
As for "Tits n Bums" calendars - I worked at an internationally renowned firm of consulting engineers a couple of decades earlier, at a time when it was common to have a series of office juniors / school leavers traipsing around collecting and delivering internal mail, typing and filing. One day, I found one of the younger more impressionable lasses almost in tears, waiting for the lift - after a lot of persuasion, she told me that she had been upset by a not even slightly tasteful calendar in one of the small side offices. After making sure she was alright, I took it upon myself to investigate (there had been an instruction to stop displaying such things a few weeks previously - this particular group had merely moved it to somewhere it wasn't visible from the door. The new place was on the side of a cupboard, next to the table with their in / out trays ... I said to them that it wasn't acceptable even there ! I had a word with the more senior woman who corralled the office juniors, whose complaint was the likely cause of the original instruction, I suggested that she got a "Chippendales" type calendar and put it up in her office ... she did and only took it down months later.
