Maybe I should give this a go
my hair is also perpetually fluffy and shit, I've been using argan oil on it before I blow dry recently which has helped that a bit, but I also have a very sensitive scalp and often have like actual scabby bits
I tried T-Gel but it didn't seem to make much difference (used the full bottle over a month or so). I need to wash my hair every day or two because it gets grotty at work (like oil, dust and solvents grotty) but maybe I'll try just using conditioner for a while.