Consciousness is, IMV based on the existing evidence, a subjective state that humans experience as a result of neurological activity - you can 'see' consciousness on brain scans cos there's electrical activity even when the brain is at rest. Are you trying to say that there is some mystic force that 'adds' to the chemical experience of falling in love with someone? Your argument about them 'not being material' may fall down completey once we know how the brain stores and organises memory which is the basis for experience and how we learn, have ideas etc.
The 'concept' of an idea isn't material, but the processes the brain goes through to get them is - and an idea does physically exist - as I've said, the neurological activity of the brain having an idea can be observed (and it's usually massive as well). Have you ever seen a brain scan of someone in the first flush of being in love with someone? There 'resting' brain actvity is radically different from the norm - and it's this activity that they are experiencing as falling in love.