Eppie, what are you talking about? Yes, Fenris was a pain (albeit with a sexy voice), and the romance with him was fairly crap (but I've seen loads of people online who thought it was amazesauce so each to their own), but you could certainly romance Aveline. Remember that bit where you get to help her romance her subordinate? There's a bit there where you get to tell her to forget about that guy because you love her.
I agree that there was way too much tragedy in the story. I absolutely loved the Anders mega emo terrorist story, but not everyone needed to have such a bad ride.
I wish I could have saved Leandra
Romance in Dragon Age is generally... weird.
The last time Bioware did romance right was the original KOTOR. After that it was not part of the story anymore... but just a chore that gets awarded with sex. As if girls were some kind of slot machine.... insert coins, get sex -.- I think that is not just wrong from a moral standpoint, but also just cheap.