Happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking

[cyprusclean]

 

[toblerone3]

Really interesting talk. Thank you for posting

 

[bi0boy]

It's an hour long, how about a summary?

 

[ATOMIC SUPLEX]

I'd like to know the answer but I doubt there is one.

 

[Treacle Toes]

Haven't watched the vid but will hazard a guess at....think about and work out why you 'can't stand to think positively'...acknowledge the associations, acknowledge that 'positivity/happiness' is a state of being that is NOT absolute (can be happy about some things and not others at the same time), learn to focus more on/ or move more easily between thinking/feeling the things that make us think/feel positively/negatively, despite the things that disappoint/offend/scare/anger us seeming absolute/overwhelming etc?

 

[ATOMIC SUPLEX]

. . . or maybe it says "Don't worry, you'll be dead soon and none of this will even matter"

 

[Treacle Toes]

. . . or maybe it says "Don't worry, you'll be dead soon and none of this will even matter"

...even more reason to work this shit out now and at least get some pleasure out of life.

 

[wayward bob]

It's an hour long, how about a summary?

that relentless positive thinking can lead to poor judgement when it comes to taking risks. that we'd be better thinking about the best and worst possible outcomes of a situation. that total self-belief isn't necessary to achieve great things and it can get in the way if you believe it has to come first (just *doing* in a step-wise fashion being more important). some stuff about day of the dead and buddhism - that we need to accept failure and death as part of life rather than pretending they won't happen if we don't think about them.

i think that mostly covers it. i found it interesting, although i'm one of those people that irritate him who are born optimists

 

[IC3D]

I'm convinced positive thinking and driven people are what will destroy the human race. I haven't ironed out the details I just can't be arsed really.

 

[cyprusclean]

The author made reference to the "yes we can" overoptimistic culture of the US, motivational speakers and the like. But they have their share of realistic thinkers and philosophers over there too:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog.../emotional-acceptance-why-feeling-bad-is-good