I really hope we are not like some rugby fans, from my experience (talking about England here) I played to relatively decent level when I was younger as well and my dad preferred Rugby to football so used to go to a lot of games (before we won the world cup and couldn’t afford it after that) But at Rugby I have heard some of the most racist, sexist, homophobic abuse more than at a lot of football I have been to. The thing is its subtle and people either don’t notice it or don’t realise what they are saying or everyone is under the impression that they are better/don’t really mean it/just banter/ it’s ok “We’re the gentlemen, football fans are the thugs” (which imo is also very classist in itself)
I know this isn’t everyone and not trying to tar all rugby fans but there is a huge problem in rugby which most people are relatively blind to and don’t want to admit because they wouldn’t want to lower themselves. I find in football there are lot more visible fan groups willing to stand up against abuse like we are doing in Dulwich more than I believe I have ever seen in rugby (all though this may have have changed).
When people say its more like a rugby crowd what I hope they mean is that they feel safe. As I admit rugby on the outside has the illusion of being much safer than most football games however if you’re part of a minority group and you here the casual quips it can feel anywhere but safe. Dulwich crowd is hopefully just nice people watching football. We are Dulwich fans and we are proud to include everyone.
Don’t get me wrong I do still have huge admiration for the players as athletes and the game its self. But Rugby is not above football or nicer than football or fans better than other fans. There are just nice groups and not so nice groups in every sport. BUT to take a positive of what you said im glad people view us a s a nice group of fans
(ps. talking about union)